Anonymous asked :
What is the most important thing to you in a relationship?
Hm… Trust I guess. When you know you can trust your partner, you can move mountains together. But sadly, trust is also one of the hardest things to have.
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Anonymous asked :
Can I ask what the French think about what is attractive for a guy? I know looking natural is important, but what about muscle? Are buff guys considered attractive?
Well as a general rule, attractiveness or even beauty in France is mostly defined by harmony. You can be curvy, muscular, thin or anything as long as it looks harmonious and healthy. Like a very tall guy with huge muscles will look quite harmonious while a little guy with too much muscles will leave no doubt about his use of steroids and hence he won’t be “attractive”. Just like a too obese girl won’t look attractive because people will wonder about her health.
And anyway, it’s all about personal taste too. Some girls like muscles on their man, some others don’t, just like some guys like chubby girls and others don’t. Consensus isn’t important when you find your right fit! :)
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While I doubt I will ever have the pleasure of dating a French man, I do have a general question on dating. Is it true that dating in France is generally done with groups of friends? And that just a few kisses (not even passionate kisses) kind of means you two are in an exclusive serious relationship?
What do you mean exactly by “with groups of friends”? If you’re pointing the fact that French people hang out in bars in groups, that’s true. But when it comes to dating, the couple can go out with friends just like they can go out alone if they feel like sharing a moment just the two of them together… It’s up to them!
And no, few kisses doesn’t mean anything like that. French are quite fluid with their sexuality and lovelife, they can kiss or even have sex without “dating” each other for real. Dating is pretty much a decision both make when they feel they start to have feelings or an attraction strong enough to justify being exclusive to each other.
But I don’t mean that all French are like that. People have different personal stories and a kiss can shape into many forms… a kiss while drunk in a party is completely different than a kiss after longing for each other for a while. The first doesn’t mean anything while the second totally means the beginning of something. That has nothing with being French, it’s just life!
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Anonymous asked :
How the french people face sex and sexuality? I always heard frenchies are very liberal, is that true?
Yeah, we are liberal but in the meantime, we are very discreet about it. French don’t really regard relationships as sacred to be honest. They care much more about their happiness as an individual than as part of a couple. Consequently, they easily let their *minds* wander hoping they’d never have to pay for the consequences of their actions. However, it’s not in our culture to share about our night activities, like at all. You’re free to do what you want in your bed, but we just don’t want to hear about it xD
Regarding sexuality, men and women are very equal: they get the same amount of pleasure. By that, I mean that women are just as free as men to go see if the grass is greener elsewhere. It’s okay for men OR women to date several people at a time when they’re not committed in a relationship.
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Anonymous asked :
What are the French's views on finding love? Do you (the French) believe that everyone has the potential to find a mate or is love only reserved for the few, lucky and beautiful people?
Everybody deserves to love and to be loved back, man…
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Anonymous asked :
I know that the French like to keep their intimate life private, but I just wanted to know what the general attitude was on casual sex. Is it frowned upon or accepted?
It’s more than accepted. Have fun xD
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Anonymous asked :
Hi! Do French men prefer skinny women? Can they think a girl is pretty even though her skin might be bad (pimples etc)? Obviously this is individual but could you give me like an overview? :p
As a general rule, French men love confident women, who feel pretty and sexy just the way they are. No matter if they are skinny, fat, with flawless skin or not. It’s all about the general feeling the man will have when he’ll first meet you, that’s all :)
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Anonymous asked :
Do you any common French pick-up lines?
Oh my god, French despise pick-up lines, you have no idea… You can be sure that if you try to talk to a girl by using a pick-up line, not only she’ll find it lame, but she mostly think you’re a loser. It’s like, the rule N°1 when it comes to French dating.
The best pick-up line in French society must be spontaneous and specific to the person you’re talking to. In other words, you must adapt and try to find some subject the person might like. You better talk about the music around, if you have friends in common, the weather… I don’t know, anything will do but common pick-up lines.
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Anonymous asked :
Hello :] I know you've answered questions regarding dating in France and some social customs, so I was wondering: do young French heterosexual couples (while they are dating and not living together) generally see that their finances (who should pay for dinner, the movies etc) should be split in half? Or do French guys see that their role is to pay for their dates? Thank you!
Well, I think it depends on people. Some guys like to pay to show “who the man is”, and some other like to split, paying only when things get serious. Traditionally, the man pays, but honestly, it’s up to you…
Personally, I do not split. I consider that the person inviting should pay. I think it’s a proof of respect more than “power” over the other person. I’m also rather embarassed when someone pays for me so if someone invites me, I’m insisting on doing something free or very cheap. Believe me, sometimes I hardly regret paying xD but well…
My friend tend to be sad when the man asks for spliting, but mostly because they like to be treated like princesses. But they understand when the guy wants to split. They think he’s just being safe.
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Anonymous asked :
You talked about what the French men are like, but what is it like dating French women?
French women like to remain quite independant, free, and like getting a lot of attention. In the meantime, they appreciate when their partner support the fact they like to be feminine (meaning, they like to stay really attractive hence people hit on them all the time > Their partner shouldn’t be jealous.) They’re pretty attached to fashion and skin care. They like to be pretty in any occasion, even to go out for like 5 minutes to grab a think they lack for a dinner or something…
The fact they’re in a relationship doesn’t necessarily imply they’d settle down; they remain socially very active. Consequently, they aren’t very good housewives… :p
Usually (but each family is different…), the general rule is matriarchy here. As we always say, “Behind every great man, there’s a great woman”. It may sound very old-school but it’s still very true (at least to me).
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awesomefrench:
Usually, French men are not shy. They like to have fun, and they look for a partner who would like a busy social life too. They know how to be romantic when they want (Come on, we’re talking about French people! ;) ), they know how to make their partner dream, but they are very careful about it, they like to be “safe”. However, they are a little bit stuck about commitment. They settle down quite late, when they’re about 30/35 y.o. Borders between friendship and romance are a little blurry, any occasion is good to flirt.
Here are few asks I already answered that might fill in:
How do I win the heart of a French man ?
Dating Culture
However, I like my answers to be really special, so I texted few straight friends for you about French men, because I don’t play on that team, so I actually don’t really know for sure. And this is what I got :
“Someone asked me what French men are like, what do they like ?”
- L., living in Paris, formal romantic-freak : “They are just fucking assholes !” (The typical French reaction to that question > Told ya they love playing romance…)
- E., living in Parisian suburbs and committed to a wonderful French men : “They like women who are chic, who like having fun and cook well. They like smoking hot women in bed, too, very important that one, and jealous women. You can say they like to be dominant and swanky too !”
(Still waiting for some answers, I’ll edit my post when I get them… )
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Anonymous asked :
If you don't mind me asking, if you want to woo someone where would you take them in Paris? If YOU were to ask a girl out, what would a typical date consist of?
It depends on what ‘kind’ of girl she is !
My favorite things to do / places to go are :
- For a very chic and classy rendez-vous, I’ll take her to the Louvre (Because I give awesome museum tours x) and because there are always some great exhibitions) and I’ll take her to Café Marly for a coffee. There’s also many great places to see around (Plâce Vendôme, for example) and famous shops (Chez Colette) that are the places to be seen.
- For a relaxed and cozy date, I’ll take her out to the movies at Bercy Village, where there’s one of the biggest theater in Paris, many shops and great restaurants. My favorite is the FrogPub (Beer and Burgers) but for more “french-ness”, there are also a crêperie and few classic restaurants. But they’re all very good !
- For an ‘arty’ date, I’ll bring her to Beaubourg, because there’s a very good bookshop and a very fun design store. Also because it’s one of the best Contemporary Art museum in the world, and it’s really easy to have a lot of fun there. Then, I’ll take her to the Swedish Institute, because it’s a very pretty Hotel Particulier with a café in the courtyard, and they make traditional hot milk chocolate that is just to die for. When it’s sunny, you can have a seat outside, it’s really charming.
- For an adventurous date (Roawr), I’ll ask her out for a walk in the 17th or 18th arrondissements. There are many hidden treasures such as small cités (group of houses with a garden you can’t see from the street - it’s hidden by huge doors), artists workshops, and because those areas are lively. I’ll recommend that for photographers, so many beautiful and unusual places ! Also, a ballad in Père Lachaise, this is … a.w.e.s.o.m.e and magical despite the context (And absolutely not freaky!)
- My dear, very dear favorite kind of date : my house, a bottle of Pouilly-Fumé, and a Ginger Rogers/Fred Astaire movie. But I don’t do it very often, only for girls that I really love, and there’s none at the moment so.. :D
Edit : But I don’t know if these are good ideas, they never work. Hahahah xD
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Anonymous asked :
Je me rends compte que Le Marais est le quartier gay de Paris. Fréquentez-vous ce quartier? Si oui, qu'est-ce qu'il y a à faire là? J'ai une autre question: savez-vous ce que les hommes homosexuels cherchent dans un petit ami (What do gay guys look for in a boyfriend? Is that right?)?
What a perfect French! Congrats :)
Le Marais est certes le quartier gay mais il est aussi l’un des quartiers les plus “emblématiques” de Paris !
C’est le quartier le plus artistique : c’est là où il y a le plus de galeries d’art, design stores, musées (Musée Picasso+Beaubourg), instituts (I recommend the Swedish Institute, it’s a heaven sent place in Paris!). Il y a énormément de brasseries très originales. C’est un de mes quartiers favoris (Et pas du tout parce que je suis gay, c’est plus pour l’ambiance décontractée et culturelle :) )
Few things I already said about dating culture (straight or gay)
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Anonymous asked :
What are French men like? What do they look for in a partner? What is dating like in France?
Usually, French men are not shy. They like to have fun, and they look for a partner who would like a busy social life too. They know how to be romantic when they want (Come on, we’re talking about French people! ;) ), they know how to make their partner dream, but they are very careful about it, they like to be “safe”. However, they are a little bit stuck about commitment. They settle down quite late, when they’re about 30/35 y.o. Borders between friendship and romance are a little blurry, any occasion is good to flirt.
Here are few asks I already aswered that might fill in:
How do I win the heart of a French man ?
Dating Culture
However, I like my answers to be really special, so I texted few straight friends for you about French men, because I don’t play on that team, so I actually don’t really know for sure. And this is what I got :
“Someone asked me what French men are like, what do they like ?”
- L., living in Paris, formal romantic-freak : “They are just fucking assholes !” (The typical French reaction to that question > Told ya they love playing romance…)
- E., living in Parisian suburbs and committed to a wonderful French men : “They like women who are chic, who like having fun and cook well. They like smoking hot women in bed, too, very important that one, and jealous women. You can say they like to be dominant and swanky too !”
(Still waiting for some answers, I’ll edit my post when I get them… )
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