I can’t tell you exactly because everybody’s different, everybody reacts differently to long distance relationships.
My opinion on long distance relationships is that there are codes you should be aware of before comitting into it :
- Both need to be quite talkative. Talking is all you have in long distance relationships, you’d better date someone who doesn’t mind calling you/being called very often.
- It’s not about quantity, it’s about quality : When you see each other, you have to do really cool stuff together and spend really quality time together to keep the flame burning, you know what I mean.
- Be creative is a very enjoyable point : Being far away doesn’t mean you can’t surprise your partner, especially with internet. Little attentions are a key to me to preserve the affection you guys have for each other
- You also have to be quite independant to deal with the frustration of not having hugs or kisses or even social life together.
Think about all these points first. If you think you both are capable of that, then just directly talk to him about that. Honestly discuss that with him, and you’ll know right away. It’s better to have an honest “no” (so you know you can move on) than a shy “let’s try” and being stuck in a shitty situation!
Hm… Trust I guess. When you know you can trust your partner, you can move mountains together. But sadly, trust is also one of the hardest things to have.
Well as a general rule, attractiveness or even beauty in France is mostly defined by harmony. You can be curvy, muscular, thin or anything as long as it looks harmonious and healthy. Like a very tall guy with huge muscles will look quite harmonious while a little guy with too much muscles will leave no doubt about his use of steroids and hence he won’t be “attractive”. Just like a too obese girl won’t look attractive because people will wonder about her health.
And anyway, it’s all about personal taste too. Some girls like muscles on their man, some others don’t, just like some guys like chubby girls and others don’t. Consensus isn’t important when you find your right fit! :)
What do you mean exactly by “with groups of friends”? If you’re pointing the fact that French people hang out in bars in groups, that’s true. But when it comes to dating, the couple can go out with friends just like they can go out alone if they feel like sharing a moment just the two of them together… It’s up to them!
And no, few kisses doesn’t mean anything like that. French are quite fluid with their sexuality and lovelife, they can kiss or even have sex without “dating” each other for real. Dating is pretty much a decision both make when they feel they start to have feelings or an attraction strong enough to justify being exclusive to each other.
But I don’t mean that all French are like that. People have different personal stories and a kiss can shape into many forms… a kiss while drunk in a party is completely different than a kiss after longing for each other for a while. The first doesn’t mean anything while the second totally means the beginning of something. That has nothing with being French, it’s just life!
Yeah, we are liberal but in the meantime, we are very discreet about it. French don’t really regard relationships as sacred to be honest. They care much more about their happiness as an individual than as part of a couple. Consequently, they easily let their *minds* wander hoping they’d never have to pay for the consequences of their actions. However, it’s not in our culture to share about our night activities, like at all. You’re free to do what you want in your bed, but we just don’t want to hear about it xD
Regarding sexuality, men and women are very equal: they get the same amount of pleasure. By that, I mean that women are just as free as men to go see if the grass is greener elsewhere. It’s okay for men OR women to date several people at a time when they’re not committed in a relationship.
Everybody deserves to love and to be loved back, man…
It’s more than accepted. Have fun xD
As a general rule, French men love confident women, who feel pretty and sexy just the way they are. No matter if they are skinny, fat, with flawless skin or not. It’s all about the general feeling the man will have when he’ll first meet you, that’s all :)
Oh my god, French despise pick-up lines, you have no idea… You can be sure that if you try to talk to a girl by using a pick-up line, not only she’ll find it lame, but she mostly think you’re a loser. It’s like, the rule N°1 when it comes to French dating.
The best pick-up line in French society must be spontaneous and specific to the person you’re talking to. In other words, you must adapt and try to find some subject the person might like. You better talk about the music around, if you have friends in common, the weather… I don’t know, anything will do but common pick-up lines.
Well, I think it depends on people. Some guys like to pay to show “who the man is”, and some other like to split, paying only when things get serious. Traditionally, the man pays, but honestly, it’s up to you…
Personally, I do not split. I consider that the person inviting should pay. I think it’s a proof of respect more than “power” over the other person. I’m also rather embarassed when someone pays for me so if someone invites me, I’m insisting on doing something free or very cheap. Believe me, sometimes I hardly regret paying xD but well…
My friend tend to be sad when the man asks for spliting, but mostly because they like to be treated like princesses. But they understand when the guy wants to split. They think he’s just being safe.
French women like to remain quite independant, free, and like getting a lot of attention. In the meantime, they appreciate when their partner support the fact they like to be feminine (meaning, they like to stay really attractive hence people hit on them all the time > Their partner shouldn’t be jealous.) They’re pretty attached to fashion and skin care. They like to be pretty in any occasion, even to go out for like 5 minutes to grab a think they lack for a dinner or something…
The fact they’re in a relationship doesn’t necessarily imply they’d settle down; they remain socially very active. Consequently, they aren’t very good housewives… :p
Usually (but each family is different…), the general rule is matriarchy here. As we always say, “Behind every great man, there’s a great woman”. It may sound very old-school but it’s still very true (at least to me).
Anonymous asked: What are French men like? What do they look for in a partner? What is dating like in France?
Usually, French men are not shy. They like to have fun, and they look for a partner who would like a busy social life too. They know how to be romantic when they want (Come on, we’re talking about French people! ;) ), they know how to make their partner dream, but they are very careful about it, they like to be “safe”. However, they are a little bit stuck about commitment. They settle down quite late, when they’re about 30/35 y.o. Borders between friendship and romance are a little blurry, any occasion is good to flirt.
Here are few asks I already answered that might fill in:
However, I like my answers to be really special, so I texted few straight friends for you about French men, because I don’t play on that team, so I actually don’t really know for sure. And this is what I got :
“Someone asked me what French men are like, what do they like ?”
- L., living in Paris, formal romantic-freak : “They are just fucking assholes !” (The typical French reaction to that question > Told ya they love playing romance…)
- E., living in Parisian suburbs and committed to a wonderful French men : “They like women who are chic, who like having fun and cook well. They like smoking hot women in bed, too, very important that one, and jealous women. You can say they like to be dominant and swanky too !”
(Still waiting for some answers, I’ll edit my post when I get them… )